Approximately
3 more days ‘til a new year actually begins., and as they say a new year = a
new you, but then I wouldn’t want to jinx (yes I believe in jinxes) anything
about the coming year…So I’d rather write something more personal. Since #2013TaughtMe’s
been trending the past few days, I’d like to list down some of the biggest
lessons and blessings I learned because of 2013. And yes for the first time,
I’ll be speaking for myself…
2013’s been
one of the most emotionally challenging years. Bridges were burned, feelings
were hurt, and most of the time I caught myself being stunned and speechless
with what’s happening around just cause I never expected nor saw most of the
things coming. When I asked for surprises, I should have been more specific
with saying “good” surprises, and there goes my first lesson:
LESSON #1 Be careful what you wish for, cause
you just might get it…there’s
nothing bad about wishing, because most of the time wishes are what motivates
us to work hard, but then I learned to be explicit about my wishes. I learned
to be specific, because more often than not, wishes do come true, but they may
come in unexpected shapes and sizes, so might as well be specific. If you want
someone.. wish for that person.. If you want something, wish for it. Don’t be
vague about it cause you might end up getting something secondhand, but a
little warning…wishes don’t always come true.
LESSON #2 It’s okay not to be okay… I ‘ve always been bad at expressing emotions.
I’m good with coping with my feelings but I’ve never been good at showing
people my emotions, just cause I’ve been so afraid of what people might think,
but then this year, I took a step forward and learned that it’s okay not to be
okay. I learned to stand up for some things, to cry when I’m sad, and to be
cold when I’m mad. I’m not a robot, well I used to think I have my robotic
tendencies but then I was proven wrong by my fragilities. No matter how strong
of a person you are, there are those who can still make you feel weak, and the
bonus side is that there’s actually nothing bad with it! Only proves that you
are a mere human being, capable of getting hurt but also capable of standing
up!
LESSON #3 Moving on is a state of mind and trust me it is J may it be from that haunting long test that
you explicitly imagined that you already failed the moment you passed your
paper, or from that person who’s been haunting your sleepless nights… it all
starts in the mind. It can be bad at
some point, but it won’t be bad forever and it has to hurt at some point
because better days would have not existed if it were not for the worst days.
Moving on is also about saving yourself, it’s not about being selfish but it’s
more of having the dignity to actually save you.
LESSON #4 No matter how hard you try, you
cannot please everyone…
just cause no matter how hard you try, there are still those who are cringing
to see you fall, but then you don’t have to work extra hard for them to love
you. I learned to accept the fact that I was not made to please everyone. I
have my flaws and I still have them but then, others have flaws too, and take
it or leave it…I don’t have to stoop down to others’ criticisms just cause I do
not fit their idea of “perfection”, I
just have to be me and cross my fingers that someone out there, will understand
me for me.
LESSON#5 We meet people for a reason, they’re
either a blessing or a lesson…need
I say more?
LESSONS #6 JUST ENJOY THE RIDE, it won’t be perfect, no one said it would be
anyway. The ride’s going to be hella’ hard but that does not mean it would not
be fun. I made mistakes, and I’m honest about that. Compared to all the other
years, 2013 was a big “lesson learned”, but that does not mean that it was not
fun to begin with. This year I learned to discover myself in a different
perspective. I was pushed to my limits, moreover I was questioned for my
beliefs, but then I guess without all those, then this year would have been
boring. 2013 was DIFFERENT…too different at times. I saw myself go through a
lot of sleepless nights, unexpected breakdowns, and endless confusions, but
then at the end of it all, I saw myself grow. I am still the same old me.. but
bigger, better and ready to face the coming year!